Thaaaat sucks. Or more age appropriately, that stinks like hot sweaty socks.
It’s that moment when she’s unexpectedly unloads her troubles or completely melts down.
That uncomfortable wooziness fills your belly... even though two seconds earlier she was all smiles and giggles.
Friendship tiffs, broken promises and behind the back whisperings – untold stories of her day being held at bay, now surface with a vengeance.
Even for our young girls we don’t always know the right thing to say or best way to respond. Often times our knee jerk reaction is to quickly jump in with a “it’s not that bad” or even worse, a solution to seamlessly fix the problem. When really, all we need to do is name it:
This approach works for the worst offenses she’s endured to minor escalades, and altogether bad days.
It says, “I see you. I see your pain.”
It’s a win-win.
It soothes heartbreak. It can create deep connection.
It’s effective with the youngest of girls to the oldest of girls.
Everyone feels understood.
I learned this from my friend Ann, a super-insightful mountain girl & social worker. And, even though she’s full of bright ideas and solutions, she has the acumen to simply pause and say, That sucks.
It gives room to breath.
It invites a strengthening of the heart.
It builds everyone up.