When our daughters are young they look up to us as their best buds. They receive our oodles of kisses and run into outstretched arms for bear hugs. But in due time they must come into their own and as their need to set themselves apart grows, it becomes more and more difficult to feel the strength of the connection that once was.
As painful as this can be, if we can set aside our own emotions and as clinical psychologist and a couple and relationship therapy expert, Hedy Schleifer says, ‘cross the bridge’ then we can sit with and see the person that is in front of us more clearly.
“I’m going to cross the bridge to the world of my mother. I’m going to leave the world where I am struggling and I will go and meet her.”
As difficult as it can be to leave your thoughts, feelings, and reactions behind to “go and meet her” you provide her with a rich gift of deeper connection, understanding, and empathy. One that will fuel and strengthen your relationship.
What are you waiting for? Why not cross the bridge today?