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Your Girl's Path to Her Best Self For Life

 

 

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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT

BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

Your Girl's Path to Super Girl For Life

Raising your girl’s confidence to brave girl status is NOT complicated.

In fact the ONLY thing standing in her way right now…

…is you.

In order to raise her confidence a girl needs to:

…identify a sense of self

…identify a strategy for protecting her self-identity

Sounds so easy, right?

No.

The REASON it’s not easy is because a girl’s life is complicated.
Your girl’s path to her best self that’ll serve her for life begins with a handful of conversations.

Here's how you can get started right now:

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How I Unleashed My Daughter's Potential in Six Months

 

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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT

BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

How I Unleashed My Daughter’s Potential in Six Months

 

My name is Heather Freeman and I grew my daughter’s confidence from sidekick super sensitive to strong, THIS IS ME girl. Sounds good, right? Well, there was a LOT of drama behind the scenes.

If talking about feelings makes you squeamish, then this post is not for you. I feel like emotions are important to share with you for two reasons. The first is that my expertise is creating empowering emotional intelligence strategies.

If I can’t do it myself, then I’m not qualified to help anyone else. Click To Tweet.

How many people do you know who take a cooking class, then proclaim to be a master chef. Ugh. The second reason is because I want you to know that it is possible to unleash a girl’s potential from day one.

My online course, The Confident Girl Game Plan, covers the exact strategies I used to unleash my girl’s potential.

Now on to my story.....

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1. GETTING REAL

After being a full-time public health director (promoting and educating for healthy behaviors across communities) in 2003, I was SUPER disconnected. I got REAL tired of promoting every healthy behavior under the sun. I wanted to TEACH people how to focus on their connection to self and empower THEMSELVES from within.

I had SO MUCH experience working with communities. I wanted to reach people on a more personal level and begin teaching all the same strategies with my girls.

I couldn’t fathom launching my girls into the world unless I got real with how to make it happen. So, in July of 2003 I set a personal goal for myself with a 60-day deadline. If I wasn’t able to meet my personal goal within 60 days, I would have to scrap the idea of being a girl’s empowerment coach and go back to work full time. I was tired of girls’ health taking a back seat to everything else. It was all or nothing. BTW, that personal goal was to define a confidence game plan. The game plan was enough to set the course for building my daughter’s confidence AND helping others, too.

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2. GIRL POWER PROOF

Until I decided to make my girl unstoppable in June of 2003, I put practically zero thought into my own emotional wellness. Sure, I worked out regularly, and ate healthy, but I had not put ANY thought into my emotional development. When I went all in in June and became a mom, I was starting from scratch. Luckily, I knew what I was doing. I used everything I learned from empowering others and applied it to myself and my girl.

If I was going to convince anyone that I was a girl’s empowerment expert, I needed the connection with my daughter to prove it. Would you ever hire a personal chef who serves up burnt lasagna? No. I had to create a girl’s empowerment strategy for my girl that would not only sound good, but be game changing. In other words, I wanted to grow my girl’s confidence, but I also wanted nurturing parents who were interested in what I was selling.

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3. SHARE WITH MY GIRL

The world is a big place. Do I have control over everything that happens in it? No. I invest my time into my daughter. This investment was HUGE for me. The thing is, I would not have watched my girl climb a 14,000 foot peak last year and see her on track for backpacking the Colorado Trail next year if I didn’t work on my own personal growth.

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I chose to work with Wellcoaches for a few reasons. The first being that the way they worked with clients was similar to my ideal mother-daughter relationship. I’m trying to change the world here, people. I don’t want to invest time and money unless I know it’s going to make a difference. They had a lot of science-based practices in place, so applying these with my girl made sense for me. I also knew that they would be a great referral source if any of their coaches needed girl empowerment help.

4. STAY THE COURSE

Within my first three months, I was already seeing my girl take risks and try new things. How did I do this? MY CONFIDENT GIRL GAME PLAN. My girl's confidence skyrocketed because I knew exactly how to support her. You can learn every single thing I did in my program, The Confident Girl Game Plan.

I stayed the course. I did not wander. Even though I was “all in”, I only had spits of time each day to work on this. This was because I had to do all the other motherly duties at the same time. Time away wasn’t an option. This meant a lot of go-go-go.

The second I put her down to nap, I was at my computer. Did I mention I was married? Yeah. I’m going to be honest. You can have the most supportive partner in the world, but it is HARD on your relationship when you are adjusting to parenthood. Not only that, but I was missing out on sleeping in on the weekends. In other words, I needed to focus that much to get a plan in place, but it wasn’t sustainable.

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5. THE PLAN THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING

Creating a plan was one of the best things I did for my girl. I was able to help her more than ever before. By no means is this hands-off parenting…yet. I work my buns off to support her. After helping hundreds of parents, the plan practically wrote itself.

Let me repeat that. My plan was written from EXPERIENCE. By the time I wrote it, I had helped HUNDREDS of people and I KNEW the strategies worked. Heck, they were working for me, too!

I would have elbow punched (okay, probably not that) for this kind of plan when I first started with my girl. It would have saved me A TON of stress and time. Get all my strategies for raising an empowered girl quickly and easily.

6. WHAT’S HAPPENING NOW?

Right now, I am moving my girl through the next season of her life: adolescence. I’ll be back here again to talk more about that. Until then, make sure you sign up for my private Facebook group. Right now there are hundreds of parents and girl empowerment advocates just like you in there and they can’t wait to meet you!

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How To Create Magical Conversations

 

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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT | BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

 

How To Create Magical Conversations

(THAT WILL MAKE YOUR GIRL COME TO YOU)

 

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Let’s go back to my very first year of promoting health. You knew I was a public health educator, right? I wanted to be the best educator I could be and I thought the key to that was promoting. I spent an entire month researching and writing down all the reasons someone would want to quit tobacco before I even met a smoker.

Here’s what happened on my first day: my first client was 20 minutes late, my second client called to reschedule, my 3rd client hung with me while I rattled off all the benefits and then said “I know how bad smoking is, but I still don’t want to quit.”

One client stepped out of our meeting to go have a smoke. I definitely didn’t see that one coming.

In other words, my promoting was useless. I created a top 10 list without getting to know the desires of my clients first.

It took me a long time to realize that the difference between a pro educator and a newbie educator is empathy, not promoting.

I tucked my list away, opened my heart, and started listening.
I noticed a client’s body language and took notes. I invited them to share their stories and took notes. I listened to their struggles and took notes. I shared a few of my own stories with them and took notes.

I was finally able to provide support that truly helped my clients because I empathized. Soon after I adopted this empathy approach across all the healthy behaviors I was promoting. I watched clients succeed and other health educators were coming to me for advice.

It’s not about you. It’s about understanding your girl and how you can help her.

Here are two ways you can talk with your Confident girl and create magical conversations.

1. Talk with Your Confident Girl

The main reason you should do this is because your girl will open up one-on-one with you in a way that DOES NOT happen with others. Can you imagine how MEANINGFUL it is to be the safe space for your girl? I can because I create that every single day with my Confident girl. (Read, "Mothers & Daughters VS. Everyone Else")

ALL my conversations and time together are crafted by UNDERSTANDING what my girl is working towards. What she hopes to accomplish, what she worries about overcoming, what she struggles to do better with.

Yes! You do need to talk ASAP. Download your FREE copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap.

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2. Talk with other Confident Girl Parents

If you aren’t ready to go full in talking with your Confident girl yet, get a feel for it and talk with a few other parents. You want to do this because your connection with your girl is KEY to understanding what she most needs support with.

Here’s what to do.

Start a conversation by asking about the key topics that you want to talk with your girl about. For example, if you want to talk about making friends with your girl then join my Facebook group and start talking.
Seriously, why aren’t you in my group yet? If you are a parent or girl advocate, get in there! There are hundreds of people that have already joined.

There is a little conversation box right under the Facebook group cover image. This is where you will write your question post.

So, if you’re talking with your girl about friendship making, then you can ask about such things as: her self-confidence, perseverance, bringing out her voice, her uniqueness, etc.

You will not only see the problems girls have, you will learn how parents approach those problems. Girls don’t share their inner worlds with just anyone. They share their world when they have a safe space to share them in. Girls communicate their ups and downs openly and easily. That my friend, is the magic.

See you in my private Facebook group.

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Confident girl parent burnout

 

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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT | BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

 

How to Avoid Burnout as a Confident Girl Parent

 

Have you ever started RESENTING the girl in your life?
This is a topic that NOBODY ever talks about, so of course…we’re gonna talk about it.

In this post, I’ll talk about WHY burnout happens and you’ll walk away with three actionable strategies you can use to STOP feeling burned out as a Confident girl parent.

If you want to learn more about setting up your Confident girl for success, make sure to download your FREE copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap.

Today we’re going to dive into a topic that NOBODY talks about. The truth is, IF you parent a girl, at one time or another you have probably been super duper annoyed with her.

First, I want you to know this is completely normal and doesn’t make you a bad parent.

I’ve worked with hundreds of Confident girl parents and ALL OF THEM have struggled with feeling disappointed, or even resentful of certain things she does.

Feeling disappointed or resentful is a sign that YOU have not been practicing adequate self-care.

Here are three ways YOU can avoid Confident girl burnout.

#1 Understand that you can’t control every situation.

If you’re like me, you LOVE to love on your girl. As your girl starts to grow, you will come to the painful realization that you CANNOT control every situation.

Your job as a MODERN Gutsy girl parent is to foster independence, not keep her forever (even though a big sweet part of you would love that).

Pro-tip: Be honest with yourself. Don’t shame yourself by saying ‘Oh I must be an awful parent for having these resentful feelings.’ Instead say, 'I'm likely a normal parent who's struggling to resolve an issue with respect to managing the needs of my daughter.'

If the feeling pops up again, you can take that as a signal that maybe you need some additional support.

#2 Break for some personal TLC.

Sometimes parenting feels more like surviving.

If you are feeling like you are running on fumes, you need to take some time for yourself.

Your girl does not benefit from a cranky, short-fused, zombie.

I know you want to go, go, go, ALL of the time, but HOLD ON. Your self-care is important for a reason.

YOU my dear are precious.

Your bucket needs refilling.

Pro-tip: Trust yourself. If you feel tired and run down, you’re tired and run down.

Running on empty is no good for anyone, especially your girl. Show your strong sense of self-worth by taking a break and giving yourself some TLC.

#3: Teach your girl how to view herself.

If you feel resentful of giving your girl everything you’ve got, you need to take some personal responsibility.

There is an expectation of parents — particularly mothers — to be everything and give everything to our children, and if they don’t have what it takes, then they’ve failed as a parent.

Pro-tip: Get out of your own way.

We’re human. We don't do everything perfectly (even if we could it wouldn’t be what’s best for our girls). Your girl has to grow up to live in the real world, and the real world isn't perfect.

A girl can't expect to always to have people around her who understand her or cater to her every wish.

We are the one species more than any other that has to learn from others. And so, if we don't take ourselves so seriously, neither will she.

Now you’ve learned exactly how to avoid Confident girl parenting burnout,

Remember, it’s normal! Don’t be ashamed, just take action.

WHATEVER you do, DON’T try to figure out Confident girls on your own. Click here to get your free copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap and learn what to do.


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