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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT | BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

 

Is Raising Your Girl's Confidence What She Needs?

The day of Girl Power is here…. BUT, is raising your girl’s confidence what she needs?

In this post, I’ll show you 3 types of girls who would benefit the MOST from raising their confidence in order to help YOU make a decision.

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After helping hundreds of other parents of girls boost their own daughter’s confidence, I’ve learned which types of girls benefit MOST from raising their own confidence.

Type #1 “My girl comes across as shy and may even appear to have anxiety when engaged in social groups.”

If you know your girl is shy, but aren’t sure how to help her, then a boost in confidence from you is perfect for your girl.

Between you and your girl, you can start mirroring her confidence in a high impact way.

Here’s a pro tip: Make sure your girl hears positive affirmations.

For example, if you plan on talking about making friends, DON’T talk about how shy she is.

Type #2 “She’s quite confident in some circumstances, but I really want to see her do more.”

If her confidence comes and goes, with no real guarantee, then a boost in confidence is perfect for your girl.

The great thing about confident girls is that you don’t need a lot of time to build it. Why? Because confidence builds on itself.

Most girls experience a drop in confidence at around the age of 9, but once I started talking confidence with my girl, I watched her take more and more brave steps on her own.

Here’s a quick tip: Make sure it’s easy for your girl to believe in her confidence.

For example, you can model what confidence looks like with the brave things you do.

Type #3: “My girl is ready to spread her wings.”

If you’re girl is planning for a big sleepover at a friend’s house or a play date without you, giving her a boost in confidence is perfect for your girl.

Inside your relationship with your girl, you can help her build tons of confidence so your girl is excited to step out into the world on her own.

Here’s a pro tip that most parents forget about: create a safe space for your girl to land before she spreads her wings and leaves the nest.

For example, you can create conversations or girl time that shares WHY her confidence is important and HOW it will benefit your girl. She’ll not only be ready to spread her wings when the opportunity arises, but she’ll return ready to share her experiences with you.

Now you have a better understanding of WHY your girl needs confidence and HOW it benefits her.

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3 Reasons You Need To Raise Your Girl's Confidence

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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT | BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

 

3 SURPRISING REASONS YOU NEED TO RAISE HER CONFIDENCE NOW

So I’m guessing you’re here because you think your girl might need a boost in confidence.

…Or maybe you just want to see what all this Confident girl fuss is about.

…Or maybe you just clicked on this blog by accident.

Whatever the reason, I’m glad you’re here. Because Confidence is THE strategy for making your girl UNSTOPPABLE.

It isn’t just important, it’s CRITICAL for instilling and maintaining a strong sense of self.

I’m not exaggerating for dramatic effect.

It is seriously THAT FRIGGIN’ IMPORTANT!

Not convinced? Here are THREE reasons why Confident girls will change the world. (i.e. break through the GLASS CEILING)

 

 

1. SHE MAKES THE WORLD BETTER.

I’m sure you’ve noticed, the world isn’t such an easy place to live in these days.

Unless she’s a pro at being herself, she’s getting left out or LEFT behind. Her bright light is not shining AS BRIGHT.

It’s not you, it’s the reality we live in.

The world is designed to challenge one’s sense of self. This means conforming to societal norms, being something SHE’S NOT.

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Of course, the world is this way because people are human. The majority of people act from a place of fear. So if you want your girl to have any chance at breaking the norm, you’re gonna have to protect her.

Now, there’s not anything wrong with this, protecting her from the world helps her, but she needs to know how to handle life on her own and be ready to face its challenges.

If finding ways to protect her works for your girl, then by all means, protect away. But most of us want to give a girl more.

Enter Confident girls.

One of the absolute BEST things about a Confident girl is she is AMAZING! A blessing to YOU and a blessing to the people around her!

Parents love a confident girl because it’s hard to love anyone else more AND they don't want to give up on something they’ve already invested so much in.

But my FAVORITE thing about Confident girls (besides everything) her connection is rock solid. This means that if she faces a zillion challenges in her day, SHE’LL COME OUT ON TOP every single time.

This gives you TREMENDOUS freedom in how you view her well-being. No more second guessing if she’ll be ok or that feeling that BREAKS YOUR HEART. Confident girls give you the trust to step back in a very thoughtful and strategic way.

She’ll make healthier friendships, try WAY more things, AND your girl’s happiness will SKYROCKET. (Because your girl will actually BELIEVE in her power.)

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2. SHE CAN MAKE BETTER (IE. HEALTHIER) CHOICES IN ANY SITUATION.

Have you ever spent HOURS and HOURS dreaming of the girl that you’re SURE she’s destined to be, only to watch her OPT OUT?

Me, too. It stinks.

But how are you supposed to help her? Force participation?

Before I started parenting my own Confident girl, I had no idea what my girl needed. I would spend time talking with other parents, reading books, and asking questions. But I just wasn’t getting the answers I needed.

Nothing worked.

It wasn’t until I connected with her strengths that I was able to develop strategies that I KNEW my girl LOVED.

And guess what? My girl’s confidence got SUPER CHARGED. Fancy that.

Look, doing nothing with your girl just doesn’t work.

Here’s why: That is not what she needs. It might FEEL like she doesn’t want to hear from you. But don’t be fooled, it’s NOT what she thinks.

Different girls express themselves differently even if they share the same gene pool. Which is great! Means the world is a beautiful place because we are all unique.

But only if you talk WITH your girl will you be able to understand what YOUR girl needs. Many times she will just flat out TELL YOU the kind of help she wants. How cool is that?

And if you needed ANOTHER bonus: delving into new territory will also be a SNAP.

Hearing her ups and downs, giving her encouragement, and listening while she vents will provide you with an endless supply of conversation topics, areas for support, mother-daughter dates, and ways to spend time together.

Your hardest decision will be deciding which girl power idea to have fun with FIRST.

3. TALK THROUGH ANYTHING, BABY.

Talk is EVERYTHING when it comes to a girl’s world. It’s the NUMBER ONE way your girl will express herself and ask for help.

And your connection with your girl is the best, most guaranteed way to get her talking.

Through the intimate nature of relating with you, your girl will directly engage with you, and see you as her ally.

But she won’t just talk with you about the small stuff, she’ll talk about the big stuff!

By giving a girl TONS of valuable, helpful talks that can directly impact her sense of self, she’ll quickly see you as her biggest fan and source for all things ENCOURAGING.

This talk will DIRECTLY affect her self-identity in a BIG way.
I cannot overstate the power of a confident girl.

Are you CONVINCED yet?

Honestly, I think I re-convinced myself!

Look, girls want to be supported. They want to hear from the people in their lives that matter and who “gets them.” So, if you instill this in her, you’ll be he forever confidant. And that trust = EMPOWERMENT.

I love me some warm fuzzies.

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The Mother-Daughter Relationship vs. All Others

 

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BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

All Relationships vs. The Mother-Daughter Relationship


If you have a girl, does her relationship with her mother REALLY matter? In this post, you’ll learn the major differences between relationships with others and the relationship between a mother and daughter so you can decide what she needs from one or both.

If you want to learn more about setting up your Confident girl for success, make sure to download your FREE copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap.

Since a girl’s confidence is becoming more and more essential, many parents are left wondering, “don’t her relationships with others matter the more?”

There are 5 important differences between a Confident girl’s relationship with others and a Confident girl’s relationship with her mom.

#1 You can help your girl see her true reflection.

If helping a girl see her strengths is part of your empowerment strategy, you need an unbreakable mother-daughter connection. Mom’s know their girls best. With your super mom powers, you see her awesomeness even when she doesn’t.

#2: The mother-daughter relationship provides you with an opportunity for strengthening protective factors.

Your girl will face increasingly bigger challenges as she grows in independence. That means, she’ll need protective factors to help her resist and respond to the pressures of her world.
Girls are MORE able to resist to pressures when they have a positive adult role model – YOU in their lives.

Once you understand your power, you can better support her.

#3: The mother daughter relationship provides better protection

The outside world can be unpredictable. That means if she gets left out at recess, it’s not clear how she’ll respond.

In your relationship, she gets a safe place to learn, grow, and test her self-identity. This increases her opportunity to test out her self-identity with someone who loves her unconditionally.

You’ll have strategies for helping girls be mindful about her unique self-identity while keeping her open to differences in others.

#4: The mother-daughter relationship increases a girl’s confidence faster than any other relationship.

The mother-daughter relationship is insanely effective at giving your girl confidence. My own relationship with my daughter boosts her confidence

Your girl is engaged and connected to you in a way that just doesn’t happen with other people, so when you do praise her for her effort on going out for the soccer team, your girl will be MUCH MORE likely to see the confidence in herself.

You’ll know how to help build a support system for girls living in today’s world with cultural pressures to fit it, discriminate, be intolerant

#5: The mother-daughter relationship is more powerful than other relationships.

You’ll be able to help your daughter deal with negative influences she may encounter in being herself. You’ll have ways to be together that encourage her to learn to make her own connection to self.

The mother-daughter relationship creates this perfect storm of optimum potential, connection, and trust your girl can’t find ANYWHERE else.

Have you noticed that the biggest go-getters have a rock-star mom by their side? Think American Olympic skier Mikaela Shiffrin. Girls like Mikaela know their mom is their BIGGEST fan and contribute their success to having their moms in their lives.

Now you have a better understanding of how the mother daughter relationship and all other relationships differ.

You may be thinking, well, I guess I won’t even bother with helping her with other relationships…. DON’T do that.

Girls still need to connect with others.

So, MY advice is to do both. BUT, give most of your attention to you & your girl.

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The Art Of Focusing On Her Brilliance

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BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

The Art of Focusing On Her Brilliance

Here’s the best piece of advice you’ll ever receive:

Keep your eyes on the prize.

When raising a girl, this is INCREDIBLY difficult to do.

It’s easy to look around and constantly worry you don't have what it takes.

In today’s post we’ll talk about WHY it’s so easy to get down on yourself and WHAT you need to do when you notice it happens.

Let’s get started…

I want to share a story with you. It’s a story of how I used to look at my girl. Now I’ve come a long way since then. I’m comfortable saying that it does happen, and when it does I’m quick to nip it in the bud. But basically, what we’re talking about today is the art of focusing on your girl’s brilliance. And I’m mostly speaking to those who are parenting girls.

So here’s an example of what I used to do when I first had my daughter, 15 years ago......

When I was pregnant things were going OK. My pregnancy was going well, I was eating right, and getting exercise. But when I serious about what was really going on I felt like I had no idea what I was doing.

Now, it’s great to understand one’s weaknesses. Here I was, this was my first child and I didn’t have any experience with newborns – I’d never held a baby, never mind changed a diaper. Now mind you – I also didn’t have the most memorable relationship with my mother. I didn’t experience what some would call a hands-on mom. But regardless, I beat myself up.

I beat myself up for not having the whole mothering thing figured out, and the worst part was I wasn’t even giving myself a chance. Not only did I beat myself up about not knowing how to hold a baby or change a diaper, but at that point I was doubting my own ability to figure things out – something I’m actually super good at.

I see a lot of parents being hard on themselves. Putting too much focus on their shortcomings and assuming they'll share those same shortcomings with their girls.

NOPE. NO MORE.

Ok. No. If this is you, you’re not giving yourself the chance to knock it out of the park. You’re not giving yourself the chance to be the kind of mom you’ve always imagined was possible. You don’t know the kind of impact you can have unless you give yourself the opportunity. So focusing so much on what you’re lacking when you are just trying to figure things out is a major mistake. Right?

Hey, I get it. I did the same thing too. When I was just starting out with my daughter I was trying to make parenting decisions based on what I didn’t know. That makes no sense. That’s a horrible approach. Right?

Now I get it.

I know there’s a lot of pressure coming at you all the time. A lot of pressure to get it right, to not mess her up. A lot of pressure to listen to everyone else's parenting advice. So I’ve done something that is going to help you. I’ve distilled everything into 3 specific things. Here are 3 absolutely 100% things you need in order to build confidence with your girl.

#1 A VISION

The first thing you need is a clear vision for your gutsy girl. Maybe you envision her happily playing the piano, or pursuing her dream job of becoming a veterinarian, or dancing with the stars. Whatever it is – you need a vision.

#2 AN EMPOWERMENT STRATEGY

The second thing you’re going to need is an empowerment strategy. Now I understand that when your girl grows, she’s going to need different things from you, but starting out you’ve got to have a strategy. This is the basic, no brainer things we can all agree that you need – a gutsy girl vision and a strategy. These are two of the most important things.

#3 A CONNECTION

So listen, you need a gutsy girl vision, a strategy and you need a connection. It doesn't matter how you choose to connect with your girl, but you need a connection with her. Maybe you connect with your girl at the dinner table..... maybe you have incredible success talking one on one with your girl on the drive home from school talking about her day, her friends, about what she’s learning,…. maybe that works for you. That’s awesome.

Maybe it’s time together. Maybe you and your girl take a weekend and getaway somewhere special where you’re able to connect with your girl and you’re able to talk with your girl and build her confidence this way. That’s good stuff.

The insider’s secret to the mother-daughter connection is that you see your girl like no one else sees her. So your girl, if your relationship is healthy, is going to be sharing things WITH YOU. And it’s your connection with her that keeps her sharing more. And that’s what’s going to keep your girl confident. Because it’s not meaningful to be the star of your connection. Where your girl rolls her eyes every time you speak. That won’t work, you’re going to become a turn off and it’s not going to be good, ok?

The value in my connection with my girl is that I am able to tap into my daughter’s needs.

So I really encourage you if you’re just starting out not to do what I did, which is get out the boxing gloves and beat yourself up about all the things you don’t think you know about raising a daughter.

Get clear on your vision, have a strategy, and connect.

That’s it.

Three things to focus on. Don’t be hands off. Focus on those things and you’re going to set her up for success.

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