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Confident girl parent burnout

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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT | BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

 

 

How to Avoid Burnout as a Confident Girl Parent

 

Have you ever started RESENTING the girl in your life?
This is a topic that NOBODY ever talks about, so of course…we’re gonna talk about it.

In this post, I’ll talk about WHY burnout happens and you’ll walk away with three actionable strategies you can use to STOP feeling burned out as a Confident girl parent.

If you want to learn more about setting up your Confident girl for success, make sure to download your FREE copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap.

Today we’re going to dive into a topic that NOBODY talks about. The truth is, IF you parent a girl, at one time or another you have probably been super duper annoyed with her.

First, I want you to know this is completely normal and doesn’t make you a bad parent.

I’ve worked with hundreds of Confident girl parents and ALL OF THEM have struggled with feeling disappointed, or even resentful of certain things she does.

Feeling disappointed or resentful is a sign that YOU have not been practicing adequate self-care.

Here are three ways YOU can avoid Confident girl burnout.

#1 Understand that you can’t control every situation.

If you’re like me, you LOVE to love on your girl. As your girl starts to grow, you will come to the painful realization that you CANNOT control every situation.

Your job as a MODERN Gutsy girl parent is to foster independence, not keep her forever (even though a big sweet part of you would love that).

Pro-tip: Be honest with yourself. Don’t shame yourself by saying ‘Oh I must be an awful parent for having these resentful feelings.’ Instead say, 'I'm likely a normal parent who's struggling to resolve an issue with respect to managing the needs of my daughter.'

If the feeling pops up again, you can take that as a signal that maybe you need some additional support.

#2 Break for some personal TLC.

Sometimes parenting feels more like surviving.

If you are feeling like you are running on fumes, you need to take some time for yourself.

Your girl does not benefit from a cranky, short-fused, zombie.

I know you want to go, go, go, ALL of the time, but HOLD ON. Your self-care is important for a reason.

YOU my dear are precious.

Your bucket needs refilling.

Pro-tip: Trust yourself. If you feel tired and run down, you’re tired and run down.

Running on empty is no good for anyone, especially your girl. Show your strong sense of self-worth by taking a break and giving yourself some TLC.

#3: Teach your girl how to view herself.

If you feel resentful of giving your girl everything you’ve got, you need to take some personal responsibility.

There is an expectation of parents — particularly mothers — to be everything and give everything to our children, and if they don’t have what it takes, then they’ve failed as a parent.

Pro-tip: Get out of your own way.

We’re human. We don't do everything perfectly (even if we could it wouldn’t be what’s best for our girls). Your girl has to grow up to live in the real world, and the real world isn't perfect.

A girl can't expect to always to have people around her who understand her or cater to her every wish.

We are the one species more than any other that has to learn from others. And so, if we don't take ourselves so seriously, neither will she.

Now you’ve learned exactly how to avoid Confident girl parenting burnout,

Remember, it’s normal! Don’t be ashamed, just take action.

WHATEVER you do, DON’T try to figure out Confident girls on your own. Click here to get your free copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap and learn what to do.


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Confident girl lies

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PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT | BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH

Confident Girl Lies


There are a few lies floating around about raising a Confident girl that are complete nonsense. In this post, we’ll get to the truth of the matter so YOU can move your girl forward.

If you want to learn more about setting up your Confident girl for success, make sure to download your FREE copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap.

This FREE checklist will outline the process of raising your own unstoppable Confident girl.

It’s normal to feel hesitant about focusing on your Confident girl. The problem is that many of your hesitations might be based on information that just isn’t true.

Let’s bust a few popular Confident girl myths.

Myth #1: She’s not the right age.

Have you ever heard the saying “Don’t wait for the perfect moment? Take the moment and MAKE it perfect.”

A girl is never too young….or too old to have someone in her life who consistently provides love, guidance, and support. Who is there when no one else is there to say “Girl, You’ve GOT This.”

Besides, we all know what happens to the person who waits for the perfect moment. THE perfect moment never happens and she ends up looking back on time saying “if only.”

Myth #2: My girl doesn’t want to hear what I have to say.

If you think you’re a nag, something is wrong. If you are not spending more than a quick passing each day talking Confidence with your girl, something is wrong. The truth is that many girls go without talking confidence because they don’t have someone to talk about it with.

When one of my students came to me, she was spending little of her time connecting with her girl. After she completed the Gutsy Girl Game Plan, she not only increased her time, the quality of that time together skyrocketed

More importantly, her daughter was now set up in a relationship with her that generated trust and got her opening up and talking – without nagging.

Myth #3: I need to get it right from the start.

Most people believe they have to have the perfect opening line, talking points, and speech, …..BEFORE they build confidence with their girl.

This could not be further from the truth.

Your Confident girl will give you direct insight into what she needs to hear. This kind of insight is priceless.

Adults spend half their paycheck each month for therapists to unravel what they’ve ignored about themselves for years and you get to teach her how to do it NOW, with your Confident girl.

Stop creating conversations you hope your daughter will listen to and start creating conversations that unleash her inner unicorn.

Now that we’ve shattered some major myths about parenting a Confident girl, you can start raising your girl with confidence.

Click here to get your free copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap and learn seven steps you need to take in order to ENJOY your Confident girl.

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It's not what you look at that matters.....it's what you see

by Heather Freeman, click here to get all our posts.

It's not what you look at that matters....it's what you see.

Those streaming tears are not just tears -
she's sensitive, doesn't have words for her pain, and is hurting.

Her head stuffed into the nook made by where my neck meets my shoulder - I can't will her to be more outgoing because it's not her nature. She's got a soft heart, is cautious.. this will serve her well in some situations.

Her arms crossed, face scrunched - while some may label her stubborn and defiant ...... I see her being brave as she stands up for what she believes in.

I learned a long time ago (with the help of others) that it's not what you look at that matters - it's never just my daughter who is crying or who stands in front of me with her arms crossed, but it's a little girl who is encountering one of life's big experiences head on.

And when I see her in this light, I can focus on being there for her and hold space for her to be, well, her.

What do you see?

XO,

Heather

 

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What I know for sure....

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