PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT | BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH
How To Create Magical Conversations
(THAT WILL MAKE YOUR GIRL COME TO YOU)
Let’s go back to my very first year of promoting health. You knew I was a public health educator, right? I wanted to be the best educator I could be and I thought the key to that was promoting. I spent an entire month researching and writing down all the reasons someone would want to quit tobacco before I even met a smoker.
Here’s what happened on my first day: my first client was 20 minutes late, my second client called to reschedule, my 3rd client hung with me while I rattled off all the benefits and then said “I know how bad smoking is, but I still don’t want to quit.”
One client stepped out of our meeting to go have a smoke. I definitely didn’t see that one coming.
In other words, my promoting was useless. I created a top 10 list without getting to know the desires of my clients first.
It took me a long time to realize that the difference between a pro educator and a newbie educator is empathy, not promoting.
I tucked my list away, opened my heart, and started listening.
I was finally able to provide support that truly helped my clients because I empathized. Soon after I adopted this empathy approach across all the healthy behaviors I was promoting. I watched clients succeed and other health educators were coming to me for advice.
It’s not about you. It’s about understanding your girl and how you can help her.
Here are two ways you can talk with your Confident girl and create magical conversations.
1. Talk with Your Confident Girl
The main reason you should do this is because your girl will open up one-on-one with you in a way that DOES NOT happen with others. Can you imagine how MEANINGFUL it is to be the safe space for your girl? I can because I create that every single day with my Confident girl. (Read, "Mothers & Daughters VS. Everyone Else")
ALL my conversations and time together are crafted by UNDERSTANDING what my girl is working towards. What she hopes to accomplish, what she worries about overcoming, what she struggles to do better with.
Yes! You do need to talk ASAP. Download your FREE copy of The Confident Girl Parent Roadmap.
2. Talk with other Confident Girl Parents
If you aren’t ready to go full in talking with your Confident girl yet, get a feel for it and talk with a few other parents. You want to do this because your connection with your girl is KEY to understanding what she most needs support with.
Here’s what to do.
Start a conversation by asking about the key topics that you want to talk with your girl about. For example, if you want to talk about making friends with your girl then join my Facebook group and start talking.
There is a little conversation box right under the Facebook group cover image. This is where you will write your question post.
You will not only see the problems girls have, you will learn how parents approach those problems. Girls don’t share their inner worlds with just anyone. They share their world when they have a safe space to share them in. Girls communicate their ups and downs openly and easily. That my friend, is the magic.
See you in my private Facebook group.
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