PARENTING, GIRL EMPOWERMENT
BY HEATHER FREEMAN, MPH
How I Unleashed My Daughter’s Potential in Six Months
My name is Heather Freeman and I grew my daughter’s confidence from sidekick super sensitive to strong, THIS IS ME girl. Sounds good, right? Well, there was a LOT of drama behind the scenes.
If talking about feelings makes you squeamish, then this post is not for you. I feel like emotions are important to share with you for two reasons. The first is that my expertise is creating empowering emotional intelligence strategies.
How many people do you know who take a cooking class, then proclaim to be a master chef. Ugh. The second reason is because I want you to know that it is possible to unleash a girl’s potential from day one.
My online course, The Confident Girl Game Plan, covers the exact strategies I used to unleash my girl’s potential.
Now on to my story.....
1. GETTING REAL
After being a full-time public health director (promoting and educating for healthy behaviors across communities) in 2003, I was SUPER disconnected. I got REAL tired of promoting every healthy behavior under the sun. I wanted to TEACH people how to focus on their connection to self and empower THEMSELVES from within.
I had SO MUCH experience working with communities. I wanted to reach people on a more personal level and begin teaching all the same strategies with my girls.
I couldn’t fathom launching my girls into the world unless I got real with how to make it happen. So, in July of 2003 I set a personal goal for myself with a 60-day deadline. If I wasn’t able to meet my personal goal within 60 days, I would have to scrap the idea of being a girl’s empowerment coach and go back to work full time. I was tired of girls’ health taking a back seat to everything else. It was all or nothing. BTW, that personal goal was to define a confidence game plan. The game plan was enough to set the course for building my daughter’s confidence AND helping others, too.
2. GIRL POWER PROOF
Until I decided to make my girl unstoppable in June of 2003, I put practically zero thought into my own emotional wellness. Sure, I worked out regularly, and ate healthy, but I had not put ANY thought into my emotional development. When I went all in in June and became a mom, I was starting from scratch. Luckily, I knew what I was doing. I used everything I learned from empowering others and applied it to myself and my girl.
If I was going to convince anyone that I was a girl’s empowerment expert, I needed the connection with my daughter to prove it. Would you ever hire a personal chef who serves up burnt lasagna? No. I had to create a girl’s empowerment strategy for my girl that would not only sound good, but be game changing. In other words, I wanted to grow my girl’s confidence, but I also wanted nurturing parents who were interested in what I was selling.
The world is a big place. Do I have control over everything that happens in it? No. I invest my time into my daughter. This investment was HUGE for me. The thing is, I would not have watched my girl climb a 14,000 foot peak last year and see her on track for backpacking the Colorado Trail next year if I didn’t work on my own personal growth.
I chose to work with Wellcoaches for a few reasons. The first being that the way they worked with clients was similar to my ideal mother-daughter relationship. I’m trying to change the world here, people. I don’t want to invest time and money unless I know it’s going to make a difference. They had a lot of science-based practices in place, so applying these with my girl made sense for me. I also knew that they would be a great referral source if any of their coaches needed girl empowerment help.
4. STAY THE COURSE
Within my first three months, I was already seeing my girl take risks and try new things. How did I do this? MY CONFIDENT GIRL GAME PLAN. My girl's confidence skyrocketed because I knew exactly how to support her. You can learn every single thing I did in my program, The Confident Girl Game Plan.
I stayed the course. I did not wander. Even though I was “all in”, I only had spits of time each day to work on this. This was because I had to do all the other motherly duties at the same time. Time away wasn’t an option. This meant a lot of go-go-go.
The second I put her down to nap, I was at my computer. Did I mention I was married? Yeah. I’m going to be honest. You can have the most supportive partner in the world, but it is HARD on your relationship when you are adjusting to parenthood. Not only that, but I was missing out on sleeping in on the weekends. In other words, I needed to focus that much to get a plan in place, but it wasn’t sustainable.
5. THE PLAN THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING
Creating a plan was one of the best things I did for my girl. I was able to help her more than ever before. By no means is this hands-off parenting…yet. I work my buns off to support her. After helping hundreds of parents, the plan practically wrote itself.
Let me repeat that. My plan was written from EXPERIENCE. By the time I wrote it, I had helped HUNDREDS of people and I KNEW the strategies worked. Heck, they were working for me, too!
I would have elbow punched (okay, probably not that) for this kind of plan when I first started with my girl. It would have saved me A TON of stress and time. Get all my strategies for raising an empowered girl quickly and easily.
6. WHAT’S HAPPENING NOW?
Right now, I am moving my girl through the next season of her life: adolescence. I’ll be back here again to talk more about that. Until then, make sure you sign up for my private Facebook group. Right now there are hundreds of parents and girl empowerment advocates just like you in there and they can’t wait to meet you!
connect with me