Helping her get through a tough situation is so much easier if you do this

by Heather Freeman, click here to get all our posts.

My daughter Bailey was nine when the Gutsy Girl Club got its start. She's now a freshman in high school.



After a beautifully relaxing, fun, and eventful 2-week holiday break together, this week she's diving into her first round of high school class finals.

She has an incredible work ethic (like her dad), but at the same time she can sometimes get herself way stressed out....which puts her dad and I into overdrive for instilling a sense of reality in order to tether her back to earth.

One thing I've noticed over the years is that as much as it helps to tell her she can get through whatever is in front of her, it's never enough - she's got to believe it for herself.

So, last night I encouraged her to write in her journal. Following is the prompt I gave her.

  • Write a message to yourself.
  • First, imagine what it's going to look and feel like when it's Friday and you've completed this week of finals.
  • Then write it down. Describe it.
  • And.... if you feel moved, draw a picture of yourself. Maybe you'll be jumping for joy, maybe you'll be giving a friend a high-five. Whatever it is - put it down in your journal.

She headed to her room, opened her journal, and did the exercise.

When I asked her how she felt afterwards, she said she felt positive about the first day and could see herself getting through the week.



A win, for sure.

She got up in the morning looking perky and well-rested (very different from the grumpster who has reared her head in the past).


Of course, I couldn't resist. I still tucked a word of mama encouragement into her bag before she left for school. :)

She matters and the way she shows up in the world matters.

Help her see how she has it within her to face anything. Give her the wings to fly.

All my best,


P.S. Want to tuck one of these cards into your girls backpack? Email me at & grab a sheet of You've Got This cards (a gift to you and your girl).

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