Adventures of a Gutsy Girl

Gutsy Girl in Action - Terry Standish

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I was introduced to Terry Standish by a mutual friend who said to me, "You've just GOT to meet Terry...you two need to talk!"  So she gave me Terry's contact info and I shot her an email to see about getting together.  Soon there after we met up at a local Whole Foods and sure enough, as we got to talking it was magical. 

Terry is someone who emanates what it means to be a Gutsy Girl.  I caught up with her recently to ask her a few questions and here's what she had to say in response.

Happy reading & may you find inspiration in her story.

~ Heather

 

QUESTION: What inspired you to create Eye for Fashion?


For years I had been following the path of what others saw as a career path for me because I was torn which way to go. I was good at many different things that didn’t seem related to each other at the time. This is typical of a creative person which I didn’t understand back then.

My art teacher wanted me to go to art school, my retail manager wanted me to become a manager, my child development saw me as a preschool teacher.

So I ended up dabbling in many different areas of work over the years and yet it never felt I was filling all of my desires.

Whatever I was doing never seemed to make a big enough difference in the world, not as I dreamed about even though I wasn’t sure what that looked like.

I finally took a job based on the pay check only which I had never done before but I decided I needed to try because the owner of the company saw potential in me and I needed the money. I didn’t stay long because I was continually being required to go against what I felt I needed to do that was right for me.

When I look back at my life’s path I realized I wanted to do something that used all of my talents and gifts instead of just some of them. I began to see that my life’s path was all leading me to here to use every position and life experience I had been exposed to that was a lifelong preparation for me and was leading me to this place of empowering and enriching females.

Fashion was just the art form and tool I needed to use to do so.

QUESTION: You've created a professional path for helping women see & feel their beauty and you use fashion as the vehicle for which to do this.  What is one of your best dressed experiences or memories?

I have loved clothing for as long as I can remember.

I remember adults commenting on how excited I looked when I was opening gifts of clothing for my Birthday’s or Christmas. They would comment that I was just as excited to receive clothing as I was in getting a toy.

I didn’t understand why I wouldn’t be excited. To me it was just as exciting as a toy! It was something I could carry around with me everywhere I went which was better than a toy.

I could enjoy the color, feel and design that I could look at it and appreciate it everywhere I went which was different than playing with a toy and at times even better.

My favorite time of the year was always getting to pick out a new outfit and new shoes from the store directly. At times I also got a new wardrobe overnight when my Aunt brought me bags of hammy downs from my older cousin who barely worn any of it, My Aunt would pick out clothing that she liked personally that was more my style than my cousin’s taste.

 

QUESTION: What was one of the biggest fashion challenges you faced in finding your unique way to express yourself through the clothes you wear?


My biggest challenge in having my own style was learning to get over reactions of others and not to look for acceptance from other people.  I had to find it within myself and not let other people’s thoughts bother me.

I was more a trend setter rather than a follower, even within the fashion world. I only applied the parts of what I loved from fashion based on what was available, including any of my hammy downs. I then added my own spin to it with how I put it together.

I was the person who was always stepping outside the box and having fun with it. I dressed in a way that reflected who I was. I was that creative girl who I dressed that way too but that was always changing based on how I felt. I’ve coined myself a “moody dresser” because I switch styles depending on how I feel.

Most people saw me as the girl that had a natural flair for fashion and was often admired for it but at the same time I had experienced some girls who didn’t like the fact I was confident. I dressed how I did and was more girlie girl than others and was therefore bullied for it.

I didn’t fit in the norm back then and I still don’t. That is always the down side of being true to who “you” are. Being unique and expressing who you are can make us more vulnerable to others who don’t want to accept that uniqueness in themselves or resent they aren’t able to.

I wouldn’t’ and couldn’t be any other way. To do anything else would mean I was giving my power away and not being true to me which I couldn’t do completely. I am grateful for all of that and it has made be stronger for it. This was a very strong awareness that was just too important for me to not do.

If I didn’t follow my taste I felt like I was losing myself the one I was connected to and my ability express that on outside just had to be done to be true to me. It’s an emotional thing similarly to listening to music that you didn’t like just to please others or eat food you hate to please someone else’s taste. That doesn’t work and doesn’t please us. It would go against my nature and felt like I would be losing the pleasure of experiencing what I loved about me.


QUESTION: What personal strengths do you draw upon to help you pursue your passion for helping women?


I am now able to make that huge difference I was looking to make by helping females to begin to really love what they see in and on themselves.

I am teaching females how to see beyond what they had been seeing in the mirror and showing them what I have learned to see from an artistic perspective.

Females learn they no longer need to focus on what they consider to be the problem with their body or as what they may be referring to as “flaws.” By sharing the artistic perspective it has allowed me to help women to see clothing as an art form too.

Showing them it is something that they can manipulate and mold like clay, to be what they want it to be and they are the center of the focus and they can shift the outcome.

I love to share my experience so females don’t need to rely on someone else’s eye for an opinion, which only gives them more confidence and ability to be more of who they are. By combining my overall work experience of being a fitness coach, educator as an enrichment teacher, my artistic eye and my fashion retail experience I am working with women and fashion as a recipe of fun.

I use an informative approach that my clients can use immediately as she gains the gift of knowing herself better. This new way of approaching our wardrobe is allowing women and girls to reinvent themselves as they shift and change. At every and any age, stage of life and size range it is applicable. This saves her not only time and money but overall frustration by bringing her freedom of choice that suits her better as she is able to pick what she really loves because she understands.

I'd love to hear from you!

What is it about Terry's story that resonates with you?

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terry-standish-3.jpg  Every woman has multiple sides of their personality to address and dress” —what we want to see in our self, no matter where are we are going, no matter what we are doing or who we are doing it with, we can always stay true to who we are by doing it for us first. That is a true inner and outer balance of “image and fashion freedom.”

Thank you for sharing your story Terry! 

You are an example of a woman who has connected with her authentic voice and shares her strengths with the world in ways which are unique and meaningful. 

Your path wasn't always so clearly defined, but through a conscious reflection on the things that brought you the most joy as a child you have taken bold steps to bring these parts of yourself into your adult life. 

Your courage to find your own way is captivating and compelling.  And for that, I thank you, my friend!

 

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31 things you might not know about me

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  1. Becoming a mother was the biggest life changing force in my life and tops striking out on my own to live in Colorado, getting married, and running the Hawaii Ironman marathon. 
  2. Standing on the steps of motherhood was the most frightening thing ever, but an incredibly supportive husband, some good therapy, and the courage to reflect on my childhood pains helped me in so many beautiful ways. 
  3. While being a mom is ultimately the best job ever, there are some things I can do without like the endless cycle of doing laundry and running the dishwasher.  Fairy Godmaid, where are you?
  4. I have a strong marriage.
  5. My children and family are my greatest source of happiness.
  6. My graduating class of high school voted me as “Most Likely to Succeed.”  And I believe I have!  I have the most beautiful supportive family, I work with incredibly inspiring women at Adventures in Wellness, I live an incredibly adventurous life.
  7. My favorite season is spring when the overcast days of winter transcend into bright, warm days filled with the song of birds and the popping of flower and tree buds.
  8. I sing off key.  And what’s worse for those around me, I don’t care!  I happily sing anyway.
  9. I live happily on the east coast now, but Colorado is my first love and it will always have a special place in my heart.  It’s where I launched my life, discovered my true strengths, and fell in love with the outdoors.
  10. When asked what my favorite color is, well, I can’t say.  There are simply too many crazy beautiful colors to choose from.
  11. I believe the secret to a happy life is knowing who you are.
  12. I’m not outwardly religious, but deeply spiritual.
  13. I am also deeply sentimental. I believe it’s the little things in life that bring the most smiles.
  14. Oh My Gosh – here’s one, I snore. And not your typical nosey snore. I snore with my mouth wide open like a gaping abyss (so says my husband).  Sometimes I even wake myself up!
  15. I am unapologetic when it comes to cleaning house - I only clean the bathrooms when I expect company. 
  16. I’m lost without my health.  I turn into the biggest baby as soon as the sniffles hit or a headache comes on.
  17. And I am incredibly fearful of injury.  I really don’t know what I’d do with myself if I injured myself beyond repair.  However I am hopeful that if anything ever happened to me there would be people to lean on because I know of many inspiring people who have overcome physical challenges. 
  18. I love cooking and preparing healthy foods.  However when I’m too busy, this is one of the first things to go.
  19. I rarely make the same recipe twice.
  20. And speaking of cooking, I am useless without a recipe to follow.  I’m getting better and can whip up a few things from scratch, but for most things I need a recipe or else I will end up serving up something crazy gross.
  21. My youngest daughter, Zoe was born unexpectedly 2 hours away from home in Narragansett, RI because I just had to be at my father’s annual lobster festival.  I love lobster!
  22. One of the scariest things ever is the thought of losing my daughters and husband.
  23. My dream is to be an old wrinkly woman who rides her Schwinn bike around town.
  24. I love my music, but I am terrible at remembering song titles or artists.  I rely heavily on my favorites to pull me out of whatever kind of funk I’m in.  A few of my current go to’s are “On Top of the World” by Imagine Dragons, “In Reverence” by David Tolk, and “Brave” by Sarah Barreilles,
  25. I have a hard time watching sports on TV because honestly, I’d rather be out doing them myself.  But I absolutely love watching events like the Ironman Triathlon.  The personal stories of courage, determination, and commitment of the race’s unsung heroes captivate and motivate me!
  26. Sometimes I get stuck in a rut of being too much in my head.  When I get this way I realize I need to turn up the volume on my funny bone.  My favorite ways to get a good laugh are watching my husband with my girls. He is very silly.  Or I call up one of my best peeps, Courtney, who has a witty sense of humor. Or I stay up late to watch Jimmy Fallon. 
  27. I love a good adventure, however I’ve become a creature of comfort and I love being at home. It is truly the one place on earth where I feel most understood, cozy, and able to veg out and relax. 
  28. I believe less is more. 
  29. Learning about myself and returning to what truly makes me happy, is part of this constant, evolving adventure called life.
  30. Some things in life are way harder than I could have ever imagined, but the rewards are insurmountable. Like learning to forgive, love with compassion, and listen with empathy. 
  31. I believe there is always room to stretch yourself more, even when you think you pushed beyond your limits. 
  32. Bonus…..My heart is grateful. Grateful for thought opportunity to share myself with you, grateful for you reading this, and simply grateful for every breath, every moment.

 

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Finding yourself doing the same old, same old?

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Excluding my friends in the southern hemisphere, the middle of winter is upon us.  And speaking on behalf of New Englanders, we’ve been blanked by snow and subarctic temperatures on and off since before December.  Most recently there seem to be more reasons to hunker in to hibernate than not, challenging my efforts to make healthy choices and feeling well. 

For many, this is the time of year when New Year’s resolutions quickly fade, a distant memory replaced by day dreams of warmer, sunnier days.  Strung together these daydreams are the string of hope woven throughout the week to keep sanity in check.  If this sounds like you and you find yourself in a place where old routines and mindsets have taken root, don’t beat yourself up. 

Be kind to yourself.  It is easy to get caught up in mindless thinking which leads to mindless behavior.  Understanding this you can instead give yourself the chance to think of doing something different by taking a moment to stop the thought train in its tracks.  Doing so opens the door to possibility. 

What does this look like?  Let me show you a couple of examples:

  • Waking up cranky with the first thought of all that you have to do that day? (Guilty! This was me recently!) Reconnect with what it feels like to wake well rested and at peace.  Then you can take the next step and think about ways to feeling more rested.  Perhaps it’s going to bed earlier, journaling to write down all that is on your mind before bed or giving a boost to your physical activity routine.
  •  Feeling famished and willing to grab the first thing that looks remotely like food just to satisfy yourself? Again, take a moment to stop this thought process and turn to thinking instead about what it feels like when you eat one of your favorite healthy foods.  For me it’s a sweet & juicy clementine.  The smell of citrus when it sprays from the unwrapping of the peel makes me feel like I have a ray of sunshine beaming through me. Once I connect with how good it feels to eat healthy, logic kicks in and I am ready to think about ways to make that happen. 

Putting a halt to mindless thinking and choosing to be conscious about your behaviors reinforces healthy living and keeps it a priority.  Is it work? Yes. Is the work worth it? ABSOLUTELY! It leads to greater happiness and fulfillment.  Now who doesn’t want more of that?   

I challenge you to think for a moment about the routines that you have in your life.  Pick one.  Does it serve you? 

If it doesn’t what do you really want and how do you really want to feel? 

What is one simple thing you can do differently today?

 

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I encourage you to SHARE YOUR STORY and empower others to bring out their best.

 

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The gift to see

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Since early on in my childhood, I've always enjoyed setting my creative spirit free.  But for one reason or another, through the course of my life other parts of me have overshadowed these creative desires. 

I began to think of myself as so many others do: I am not creative.  I do not have a creative bone in my body.  Because without attention to the nurturing of this desire, like an unused muscle, my desire atrophied. 

With further retrospect, as a result I lost the ability to see the everyday things in my life with clarity.  Like a cascading waterfall, this tumbled down and effected my ability see the beautiful truth of these every day things.

Somehow I found myself in my thirties cruising through my days and a bit on survival mode missing out on the glorious details that surrounded me. 

I found myself rushing to close the blinds at night instead of watching the colors of a sunset smoosh from purples to reds or bury my hands in dirty dishes instead of watching the morning sun erupt from the horizon while the wrens sang in glory. 

Then one day, I was given the gift to see the world with a fresh perspective. 

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I owe a debt of gratitude to my friend and fellow creative spirit, Hiedi, who through weekly art adventures showed me how to see the details of the world again. 

Through her gentle, diligent guidance, my world opened up and I learned to once again pay attention to the details.  I feel incredibly content with this new-found connection and ready to let my creative spirit soar!

Share your story.

The Gutsy Girl Club's mission is to bring out the best in all girls.  In a world which is bombarded by negative messaging & a portrayal of unrealistic ideals - too many people suffer in silence as they grapple with how to live up to unwieldy expectations.  What is needed are stories filled with truth, honesty, and creativity to show them a different way.

I encourage you to SHARE YOUR STORY and empower others to bring out their best.

 

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