Adventures of a Gutsy Girl

The gift to see

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Since early on in my childhood, I've always enjoyed setting my creative spirit free.  But for one reason or another, through the course of my life other parts of me have overshadowed these creative desires. 

I began to think of myself as so many others do: I am not creative.  I do not have a creative bone in my body.  Because without attention to the nurturing of this desire, like an unused muscle, my desire atrophied. 

With further retrospect, as a result I lost the ability to see the everyday things in my life with clarity.  Like a cascading waterfall, this tumbled down and effected my ability see the beautiful truth of these every day things.

Somehow I found myself in my thirties cruising through my days and a bit on survival mode missing out on the glorious details that surrounded me. 

I found myself rushing to close the blinds at night instead of watching the colors of a sunset smoosh from purples to reds or bury my hands in dirty dishes instead of watching the morning sun erupt from the horizon while the wrens sang in glory. 

Then one day, I was given the gift to see the world with a fresh perspective. 

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I owe a debt of gratitude to my friend and fellow creative spirit, Hiedi, who through weekly art adventures showed me how to see the details of the world again. 

Through her gentle, diligent guidance, my world opened up and I learned to once again pay attention to the details.  I feel incredibly content with this new-found connection and ready to let my creative spirit soar!

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Finding yourself doing the same old, same old?

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Excluding my friends in the southern hemisphere, the middle of winter is upon us.  And speaking on behalf of New Englanders, we’ve been blanked by snow and subarctic temperatures on and off since before December.  Most recently there seem to be more reasons to hunker in to hibernate than not, challenging my efforts to make healthy choices and feeling well. 

For many, this is the time of year when New Year’s resolutions quickly fade, a distant memory replaced by day dreams of warmer, sunnier days.  Strung together these daydreams are the string of hope woven throughout the week to keep sanity in check.  If this sounds like you and you find yourself in a place where old routines and mindsets have taken root, don’t beat yourself up. 

Be kind to yourself.  It is easy to get caught up in mindless thinking which leads to mindless behavior.  Understanding this you can instead give yourself the chance to think of doing something different by taking a moment to stop the thought train in its tracks.  Doing so opens the door to possibility. 

What does this look like?  Let me show you a couple of examples:

  • Waking up cranky with the first thought of all that you have to do that day? (Guilty! This was me recently!) Reconnect with what it feels like to wake well rested and at peace.  Then you can take the next step and think about ways to feeling more rested.  Perhaps it’s going to bed earlier, journaling to write down all that is on your mind before bed or giving a boost to your physical activity routine.
  •  Feeling famished and willing to grab the first thing that looks remotely like food just to satisfy yourself? Again, take a moment to stop this thought process and turn to thinking instead about what it feels like when you eat one of your favorite healthy foods.  For me it’s a sweet & juicy clementine.  The smell of citrus when it sprays from the unwrapping of the peel makes me feel like I have a ray of sunshine beaming through me. Once I connect with how good it feels to eat healthy, logic kicks in and I am ready to think about ways to make that happen. 

Putting a halt to mindless thinking and choosing to be conscious about your behaviors reinforces healthy living and keeps it a priority.  Is it work? Yes. Is the work worth it? ABSOLUTELY! It leads to greater happiness and fulfillment.  Now who doesn’t want more of that?   

I challenge you to think for a moment about the routines that you have in your life.  Pick one.  Does it serve you? 

If it doesn’t what do you really want and how do you really want to feel? 

What is one simple thing you can do differently today?

 

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I encourage you to SHARE YOUR STORY and empower others to bring out their best.

 

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31 things you might not know about me

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  1. Becoming a mother was the biggest life changing force in my life and tops striking out on my own to live in Colorado, getting married, and running the Hawaii Ironman marathon. 
  2. Standing on the steps of motherhood was the most frightening thing ever, but an incredibly supportive husband, some good therapy, and the courage to reflect on my childhood pains helped me in so many beautiful ways. 
  3. While being a mom is ultimately the best job ever, there are some things I can do without like the endless cycle of doing laundry and running the dishwasher.  Fairy Godmaid, where are you?
  4. I have a strong marriage.
  5. My children and family are my greatest source of happiness.
  6. My graduating class of high school voted me as “Most Likely to Succeed.”  And I believe I have!  I have the most beautiful supportive family, I work with incredibly inspiring women at Adventures in Wellness, I live an incredibly adventurous life.
  7. My favorite season is spring when the overcast days of winter transcend into bright, warm days filled with the song of birds and the popping of flower and tree buds.
  8. I sing off key.  And what’s worse for those around me, I don’t care!  I happily sing anyway.
  9. I live happily on the east coast now, but Colorado is my first love and it will always have a special place in my heart.  It’s where I launched my life, discovered my true strengths, and fell in love with the outdoors.
  10. When asked what my favorite color is, well, I can’t say.  There are simply too many crazy beautiful colors to choose from.
  11. I believe the secret to a happy life is knowing who you are.
  12. I’m not outwardly religious, but deeply spiritual.
  13. I am also deeply sentimental. I believe it’s the little things in life that bring the most smiles.
  14. Oh My Gosh – here’s one, I snore. And not your typical nosey snore. I snore with my mouth wide open like a gaping abyss (so says my husband).  Sometimes I even wake myself up!
  15. I am unapologetic when it comes to cleaning house - I only clean the bathrooms when I expect company. 
  16. I’m lost without my health.  I turn into the biggest baby as soon as the sniffles hit or a headache comes on.
  17. And I am incredibly fearful of injury.  I really don’t know what I’d do with myself if I injured myself beyond repair.  However I am hopeful that if anything ever happened to me there would be people to lean on because I know of many inspiring people who have overcome physical challenges. 
  18. I love cooking and preparing healthy foods.  However when I’m too busy, this is one of the first things to go.
  19. I rarely make the same recipe twice.
  20. And speaking of cooking, I am useless without a recipe to follow.  I’m getting better and can whip up a few things from scratch, but for most things I need a recipe or else I will end up serving up something crazy gross.
  21. My youngest daughter, Zoe was born unexpectedly 2 hours away from home in Narragansett, RI because I just had to be at my father’s annual lobster festival.  I love lobster!
  22. One of the scariest things ever is the thought of losing my daughters and husband.
  23. My dream is to be an old wrinkly woman who rides her Schwinn bike around town.
  24. I love my music, but I am terrible at remembering song titles or artists.  I rely heavily on my favorites to pull me out of whatever kind of funk I’m in.  A few of my current go to’s are “On Top of the World” by Imagine Dragons, “In Reverence” by David Tolk, and “Brave” by Sarah Barreilles,
  25. I have a hard time watching sports on TV because honestly, I’d rather be out doing them myself.  But I absolutely love watching events like the Ironman Triathlon.  The personal stories of courage, determination, and commitment of the race’s unsung heroes captivate and motivate me!
  26. Sometimes I get stuck in a rut of being too much in my head.  When I get this way I realize I need to turn up the volume on my funny bone.  My favorite ways to get a good laugh are watching my husband with my girls. He is very silly.  Or I call up one of my best peeps, Courtney, who has a witty sense of humor. Or I stay up late to watch Jimmy Fallon. 
  27. I love a good adventure, however I’ve become a creature of comfort and I love being at home. It is truly the one place on earth where I feel most understood, cozy, and able to veg out and relax. 
  28. I believe less is more. 
  29. Learning about myself and returning to what truly makes me happy, is part of this constant, evolving adventure called life.
  30. Some things in life are way harder than I could have ever imagined, but the rewards are insurmountable. Like learning to forgive, love with compassion, and listen with empathy. 
  31. I believe there is always room to stretch yourself more, even when you think you pushed beyond your limits. 
  32. Bonus…..My heart is grateful. Grateful for thought opportunity to share myself with you, grateful for you reading this, and simply grateful for every breath, every moment.

 

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You are love

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So I bring to you ‘You are LOVE” anticipating you, too may be feeling a bout of uncertainty.  In hopes that you can resist the temptation to ride the coaster tight fisted and instead throw those hands up in the air and yell out a WaHOOO!!!!!!! 

You are LOVE.  Awesome, out of this world, love.  YOU are beauty.

Simple and perfect…….. with all of your imperfections!

In every waking moment, before you is a gift to shed fear, knee jerk reactions, destructive patterns of behavior and self-criticism.  Did you let that sink in?  Yes, every stinkin’ moment that passes is an opportunity to live more consciously and rid yourself of all the learned negative coping mechanisms you’ve acquired over the years!  Believe it because you deserve it.  No matter your past faults, hiccups along the way, stumbles or bumbles you deserve to live the love that is YOU!  But here is the kicker…..you and only you, have the power to unlock the chains, to let go and put down the walls of protection you’ve placed around your love.  It’s not easy. Oh, no, it’s not easy.  If it were easy we’d have world peace, no one would go hungry and injustice would no longer be a spoken word.

But, here you are.  You’ve landed in this spot for a blink in time.  A happy serendipity of links and clicks. The web door has opened and you are the guest of honor at the love shack – a party celebrating all that you are, the love you are and the love you share.  So get on your party shoes, let down your hair and let your feet start dancing.

Because when you believe in the love that is you, you benefit.  Living in the midst of the love you are, you will make healthier choices for how you treat yourself, whether it be the food you consume, how active you choose to be, or how you choose to deal with stress.   And guess what, there are others that benefit from the love that is you.

All those special peeps you call family (blood or not) need and benefit from your love;

Your closest comrades in life need & benefit from all the love that is you;

The place you call home, no matter where it is, needs & benefits from your love;

Oh, and don’t forget the place you spend endless hours of business, man, it really needs & benefits from your love;

Your neighbors, as quiet or noisy as they may be, need & benefit from your love;

Your enemies, are you kidding me? YES (!), need & benefit from your love;

The world desperately craves your love and benefits in intangible ways.  You may never see, touch or feel they ways in which your love touches the world, but it does.

Your love is the prescription to our world’s sickness.  Without it there is more suffering, illness, despair.  Yes, you are that important. You are that powerful.  You are that brilliant.  You. Yes, you.  Believe it.  Believe it and protect it.  Hold it up as your most treasured trophy.  No one can take your love away from you.  No one.  Ever.

You are LOVE.  You are beauty.  You are amazingly awesome.

Don’t fight it.  Don’t wait for tomorrow.  You are all you need to be.  Show up.  Be seen and LIVE LOVE!

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The Gutsy Girl Club's mission is to bring out the best in all girls.  In a world which is bombarded by negative messaging & a portrayal of unrealistic ideals - too many people suffer in silence as they grapple with how to live up to unwieldy expectations.  What is needed are stories filled with truth, honesty, and creativity to show them a different way.

I encourage you to SHARE YOUR STORY and empower others to bring out their best.

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